My boyfriend wants to make love to me but I am only 15, and I don’t think I am ready for sex just yet.

Sometimes I think I would like to have sex with him, because all my friends are having sex and I really do love him.

But, when we are together we both get a bit carried away, and I get nervous, I know he gets very excited, but now I’m not sure what to do.

I think he is getting frustrated and I am scared that he is going to bin me if I don’t have sex with him soon. I am scared and worried that it might hurt.

This is a time when only you can decide what’s best for you, so do what you feel is right for you. Don’t give into peer pressure, or pressure from your boyfriend.

If you need advice on exactly how to tell your boyfriend that you are not ready for sex yet, then please email me again and I can give you advice confidentially.

If you talk to your mother, sister, or a close friend about some of your fears and feelings, they may be able to help.

In the meantime, try not to get into situations where your boyfriend will become sexually aroused, and know your limits.

Avoid sexual innuendo, and being too intimate with him.


I can’t stop thinking about my husband.

We separated about two years ago and I feel lonely, depressed.

My life is just not the same without him.

Even when I am out with my friends I don’t feel like me.

I feel hollow inside. I feel a bit lost and sometimes I have suicidal thoughts.

How can I move on when I feel so low all of the time.

Yes, a split can be devastating, but consider trying natural remedies such as exercise, healthy eating and spend lots of time in the fresh air and sunshine, but avoid alcohol, Take good care of yourself and indulge in a luxury massage which is good for both your mind and your body.

Find the things in your life that are good and are of value, and focus on the positives rather than what you feel is missing.

If you are having suicidal thoughts, I would recommend that you see a health professional to discuss medication for your depression.

Remember, healing after a divorce can take a long time, so be patient with yourself. When you are having suicidal thoughts, be strong, hold on, and rely on your friends and family for emotional support.

You could see a counsellor if you feel that this could help.

A councillor can help you work through your emotions and you may find that you can talk to a councillor in a way which is quite different to chatting with your friends.

It may also help you re-evaluate your values and set small goals for the future.
Be strong, and patient, and good luck.