My husband is really moody, it’s unbearable.

When he comes home from work he is tired and grumpy, everything I say is wrong and he just snaps back at me. This really upsets me and I don’t know what to do.

If I confront him, it just makes things worse and we have a huge argument, I start crying and feel really bad.”

THIS doesn’t sound very nice for you, and I can understand how you would feel hurt and upset.

It’s not really fair for you if he is snapping back at you.

My advice would be to get to the root of the problem.

Try to think things through logically.

Is he is always moody, or could it be he has had a bad day at work?

Has he always been moody or is this a new thing, and is he talking any medication?

When people are stressed and tired, problems always loom larger.

He may simply be wound-up after a tense day at work, and his mood will influence the way he thinks and feels, and consequently, what he says and how he says it to you.

Mood is like a filter and it can change they way people think.

Pick your moment, and if you can, talk to him calmly and objectively.

He might have financial worries, he may be having a hard time at work, or he may just be tired and stressed.

If you can support him and show some understanding, you might find he is a changed man.

I don’t understand my boyfriend.

He never talks about our relationship or my feelings, and when I try to talk to him about it, he clams up.

We have been dating for about two years and I’m hoping he will ask me to marry him.

Instead, I can feel our relationship deteriorating and he seems to be losing interest in me.

But I really love him, and I want to understand him, but when I bring up the subject, he changes the subject or stops talking altogether.

I get so upset and frustrated because I can’t figure him out.

Firstly, does he want to get married?

Has he ever talked about his intentions?

The book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus explains how and why both men and women get upset struggling to understand their partner.

The best advice I can give is to accept that you can’t understand him. Can you really say you understand yourself?

Our brain chemistry has been wired in a way that is more interested in social bonding, and our emotional life, which means we are unlikely to spend hours talking about possessions such as sports cars, flat-screen TV’s or figuring out mathematical equations in the way that men can.